Happiness is situational.
That’s what a client told me recently. She’s not the only one to hold a belief that happiness is dependent upon a set of circumstances. I hear it all the time.
I’ll be happy when…
I’ll be happy if…
Seems to me holding a belief like that limits our ability to enjoy happiness in the moment. It suggests that happiness is out of our control.
Here are some other thoughts on happiness:
There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.
Anthony de Mello
That’s true about happiness and everything else. Our beliefs do one of two things: they either empower us to move forward in our lives, or they hold us back. Changing your belief about something when it limits you is the first step in removing obstacles, especially when they prevent you from being happy.
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
Sometimes our happiness stems from a sense of dissatisfaction. That unease comes from a misalignment between what we say is important and the choices we make. When our values and actions line up, then our sense of satisfaction goes up.
A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?
Einstein was all about simplicity – not making things more complicated than they really are. Sometimes our unhappiness comes from striving for things we don’t have and in doing so we miss the simple pleasures that are already at our finger tips.
Happiness is a how; not a what. A talent, not an object.
When happiness depends on things or circumstances, then there is always the possibility I might not be happy. When we think of happiness as a way of being, then it’s always possible. It’s a talent we can all cultivate with practice.
It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
Happiness doesn’t have to be accompanied by marching bands or wrapped with ribbons and bows. Happiness is often in the smallest of things – a smile, a kind word, a singing bird, a sunset or a hug.
What makes you happy?
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