For a time of peace and goodwill, people seem to get awfully cranky & tired at this time of year.
Just go into any shopping mall and watch what happens.
Maybe you’ve even noticed your own inner Grinch making an appearance as you try to get through your list of holiday to-do’s.
So why does that happen?
The truth is many people go over the top during the holidays: they over-commit, over-consume, over-indulge and overwhelm themselves with expectations.
So it’s no wonder that some people feel stressed out.
Why not do something different this year?
You can unhassle the holidays by trying a few of these simple tips:
Focus on creating experiences
Most people do not remember what gifts they received, or gave, the previous year. The best holidays are about experiences not gifts. Ask yourself what’s is really most important about this holiday and then put your energy into creating that experience.
Spend money you have
Lots of presents are bought under the pressure of a fast approaching deadline which can result in over-spending. Remember that gifts are not replacements for your time or affection. Stick to your budget and pay attention when guilt or stress try to influence your purchases.
Pay attention to your expectations
Yes it’s true that Christmas is a magical time but that doesn’t mean magic happens. Sometimes we expect that this year things will be radically different from the way it usually is. It’s a good bet that your family will show up and be the way they always are. Chances are good that everyone will not be on their best behaviour. Stop expecting it to be different, love them for who they are and focus on their positive qualities. Then be pleasantly surprised if a Christmas miracle does occur!
Give up your holiday control freak
It’s actually okay for someone else to bring the salad to dinner even if it’s made from your least favourite veggies. You do not have to be responsible for everything. Perfection is overrated and not really possible so let others help out in imperfect ways. You know, even Santa has elves.
Stop and refocus
When you are feeling frazzled, rushed or frustrated, stop and refocus. Ask yourself, “what is the most important thing in this moment?” It’s probably not getting the gravy just right, that the house looks like a pack of reindeer ran through it or that someone forgot to buy batteries. Focus on what really counts.
Grab some me time
During the holidays we spend more time with people than we usually do. That can leave us feeling claustrophobic and needing a little space. Taking some me time can be as simple as 3 minutes to stop and breathe, 10 minutes for a cup of tea or 20 minutes for a walk.
Me time allows you to decompress and recharge so you can bring your best self to the festivities.Me time during the holidays allows you to decompress and recharge so you can bring your best self to the festivities. Click To Tweet
Let go of a holiday tradition
A tradition is great except if everyone moans and groans about it because no one really enjoys it. Simply holding on to it because it is a tradition creates stress you don’t need. So go ahead and skip it for a year. One of two things will happen: either everyone will miss it and return to it next year with new enthusiasm or everyone will breathe a sigh of relief and you will have made space to perhaps create a new tradition.
Wear the same dress
Go ahead and repeat the dress you wore to last year’s Christmas party. Men do it all the time. They don’t run around looking for the newest version of black suit. Unless you wore something that caused a sensation, quite likely no one will remember if you wear the same thing you did last year. Save yourself some time and money. Don’t worry – you will look marvelous!
There are 12 days of Christmas for a good reason. You can go ahead and spread the fun out. Whether it’s with food, drink, fun or gifts, know your limits. It’s a great way to trade some of the hassle for a little more ho-ho-ho.
Post a comment and share your best unhassle the holidays tip.