You either can or you can’t.
Or more precisely, you either think you can or you can’t.
Doesn’t really matter what we are talking about.
Henry Ford once said:
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.
It all comes down to what you believe.
Here’s the thing about beliefs – they either empower you to move forward or they hold you back. Every belief comes with a set of expectations, attitudes, behaviours and habits. When you believe something, then you line up everything you say and do to support it.
That’s great if your beliefs help you get where you want to go. But the same thing happens when we believe stuff that holds us back. We make choices based on those beliefs that ultimately don’t get us anywhere. We don’t take advantage of opportunities, we talk ourselves out of things and we limit what we think is possible. One or more of our current beliefs don’t allow for anything different.
Perhaps you think we don’t have any control over our beliefs. We believe what we believe. That is just not the case. A belief is simply something that we think is true. It’s not implanted in your DNA. You can change your beliefs any time you want to.
Wait a minute….really?
Sure you can. You’ve done it before.
There was a time you likely held a belief about a chubby guy in a red suit that brought presents to children who were nice. Chances are pretty good that you don’t believe the same thing about him now. You were convinced at one point that Santa was a real person and embraced all the trappings that went along with that belief – flying reindeer, industrious elves and magically appearing toys. Then one day you started to question whether it was true. Maybe somebody even told you it wasn’t true. Eventually you re-created your belief so it was a better fit for you.
People change their beliefs all time. If they didn’t we would still think the earth is flat and the tooth fairy will leave us some change under our pillows.
It’s not just our beliefs about mythical characters or scientific discoveries that sometimes need examining. More importantly it’s our beliefs about how we define ourselves and what we are, or are not capable of doing.
How do you know if you have a belief that might need changing?
If you catch yourself saying something like:
That’s just the way it is.
I’m not ____ enough to _____.
I can’t because that’s who I am.
Statements like those reflect the limitations of your current beliefs.
Ask yourself if this belief is an obstacle to something you want to be or do.
If the answer is yes, then perhaps some re-creation is needed.
The most important belief for you to change is the one that says you can’t change your beliefs.
Once you adopt that idea, then all your other limiting beliefs are up for grabs.
Does this belief move me forward or hold me back?
If it moves you forward, then lean into it.
If it holds you back, then choose a new one.
Give it a try. You won’t fall off the edge of the earth if you do.
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